2015 Annual Report

Exhausted, Invigorated, Excited

In the 1960s, while their husbands were en route to the moon, the wives of the Apollo astronauts got sick of journalists asking how they were feeling, so came up with the collective non-answer of: “proud, pleased and delighted“. We’ll never know how they really felt.

If I had to nominate my equivalent, as 2015 turns into 2016, I would go with “exhausted, but invigorated and excited”. It’s accurate. It only just scratches the surface.

If I’m honest, I’m pleased to see the back of 2015, but it’s finished on a much better trajectory and what is to come is shaping up to be epic.

Let me explain…

Not Work, If You Enjoy It

Top of Corkscrew

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I didn’t take many days off in 2015, but when I did I packed them full:

A winter’s New Year at Whistler in Canada, including a blast down the Olympic bobsled run from Vancouver 2012 (hitting a top speed of 126.6 km/h on the final corner); my first visit to Disneyland; camping with my boys at Lake Rotoiti (before getting smoked out by sandflies); climbing up and flying down the eastern end of the new Old Ghost Road MTB track; a family clean sweep at X-Race Nelson in March (with the painted toe nails to prove it!); driving to Hanmer via the Rainbow Road and back on the Molesworth with MOD and family at Easter; teaming up with my brother to finish in 8th Place in the Wellington City Safari in May (not bad for a couple of old novices!); cycling on the Avanti Dome velodrome; kayaking in Abel Tasman with Tango in October; racing Sarah Walker on a BMX over 20m at the Fast50 Awards in November (for the record: I finished second); completing my first full marathon in Queenstown in November, and another blast down the Remeka Track. And, then, just before my punished toe nails got complacent, running the Tongariro Crossing with Darryl in December.

All of that meant at times that my downtime wasn’t very down.

Keeping Score

I managed three months off Sky Sport at the start of the year, a streak eventually broken by the Black Caps’ unexpected progress in the World Cup. Still that was a nice break, which left me refreshed ahead of the exertions of the Rugby World Cup later in the year.

I didn’t completely deny myself live sport though – highlights were another scorching day and entertaining night at the Australian Open in Melbourne in January (including the treat of finally seeing Roger Federer live, plus Serena Williams at the peak of her powers, 13 years after I first saw her at Wimbledon), followed by the Cricket World Cup featuring the Black Caps live in Christchurch, Wellington and Auckland. It was also an honour to attend the Halberg Awards in February.

If I play my cards right, involvement in sport in its various guises is going to be to be a bigger and bigger part of how I spend my time. I hope.

It’s Business Time

Business, Business, Business.

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I try to avoid describing the experience of working on an early stage ventures as being “like a roller-coaster”. Sure there are highs and lows, often in quick succession, but generally the intention is not to end up where you started. So, for the purposes of summarising the year just been, let’s go with squiggly line.

I made two new early-stage investments during the year, in Wynyard and Melodics. On the other side of the ledger two smaller existing investments, Respondly and Gelato, accepted acquisition offers (from Buffer and Mashape respectively). In both cases the products will continue on under new ownership and I wish them well.

A significant chunk of my time was spent helping the companies I’ve invested in previously try to raise more. Vend, Atomic and ThisData (previously Revert) all successfully closed new investment rounds during the year, and I went again in all of them. Amongst the companies I work with directly, Timely was the exception, as they continued their impressive expansion without being distracted by looking for new capital.

In total I’ve invested a little over $5.5m now, across 23 ventures. They already owe me nothing, even assuming all of the remaining investments are worthless (which might be safest). Haters gonna hate, but I’m increasingly proud of the companies I’ve backed and the progress they’ve made and I’m excited to have the opportunity to work closely with some of them along the way. I try to contribute more than I capture.

I encourage all of the founders I work with to ignore the cheering from the grandstand and run hard to the tape with the capital they have. If they do that all of them have an opportunity to be another story worth telling.

At the Deloitte Fast50 Awards in November I quietly celebrated a three-peat, as Vend joined Trade Me and Xero to become the third company I’ve worked with to earn the title of fastest growing technology company. In their case they followed up 4th place in 2014 with 7th place overall this year. Being near the top of that index two years in a row is nothing to sneeze at. For them it was a bright spot in an otherwise challenging year, so well earned. While my direct role ended soon after that, I’m thrilled to have been involved over the last five years. I’ll watch now from the side of the pool.

As the year wound down I also reluctantly stepped down from the board at Powershop. Selfishly, the three years I’ve been a director was an invaluable apprenticeship for me, and I’m grateful to John, Ari and the team for having me along for the ride during an interesting time in the development of their business.

And did those feet in ancient time?

Sunset bonfire, with a new filter I invented called "Canon 7D screen" #nocord

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Once again I spent a big part of the year not at home. I was away for 185 days (one less than in 2014, meaning that record stands … for now), completing 90 flights and two inter-island ferry crossings in the process.

Most of that was work, but there was some visits to amazing new places in the mix too.

In June I had the opportunity to travel to Israel as part of an Australian technology delegation organised by Square Peg Capital. It was a great group and we were privileged to meet some remarkable people and visit some normally off limits places. Highlights included lunch with Eitan Wertheimer, a visit to an airforce base, a tour of the old city of Jerusalem and caking myself in mud and floating in the Dead Sea. I wish I’d had more time to reflect on the many lessons and write it up, but as it happened it was a pretty distracted trip, immediately followed by an intense week in Berlin, so I’m left with photos and fading memories. But I did return convinced that there is zero chance that we can reproduce their Start Up Nation miracle in NZ without compulsory military service for all 18 year olds.

Business Incubation Center

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Then, in August, Emily and I finally made it to Africa with Jake and Billy from Nuru International. It was an honour to meet their teams in Kenya and Ethiopia and see the enormous impact they are having in both of those communities. Given the calibre of people involved it’s been a relatively easy project to support over the last five years, and especially cool to visit Kuria in Kenya (near the border with Tanzania), where the impressive local leadership team have now taken over the on-going management and are quickly planning further growth into surrounding areas.

We were also able to visit the incredible monolithic chiseled churches at Lalibela in Ethiopia and prior to that spent a week kicking back on a beach in the Seychelles. Blurring the line between travel for work and pleasure generally means I get to experience the best of both worlds. I’m fortunate to have a great network of people that I see regularly in both Auckland and Wellington. And, even when I’m overseas, it’s great to be able to mix in great food and/or live sport in Melbourne or “Artisanal liquid nitrogen blood orange and pistachio cookie ice cream” @ Smitten Ice Cream in SF. My problems are entirely first world problems.

Why'd ya have to go and make things so complicated?

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When I was at home, a lot of that time was soaked up in a new building project. In the course of the year it’s gone from hole in the ground to now completed working space. It’s been fun watching it take shape (and a pretty interesting shape it is too – triangles are not just for flags, you know!) In early December it was excellent to see it used in anger for the first time at the third annual Flounders Retreat. Spaces are for the people that fill them, and this one is going to be a good one by that measure, hopefully.

Red Peak?

In September I stumbled somewhat accidentally into the later stages of the NZ flag debate when a post I wrote about a design that had caught my attention was widely shared and suddenly #RedPeak entered the lexicon.

Last light of the day on the "First to the Light" flag. #RedPeak #nofilter

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It’s not everyday that you convince parliament to sit under urgency, so that was something, I suppose. I learned more about flags and politics than I really wanted to. It still seems unresolved whether it was a left wing or right wing conspiracy, but if you work it out do let me know! But in the end it was all for nothing – for every person who was convinced to support Red Peak, ten voted for one of the Lockwood Fern+Stars flags, so the seemingly pre-determined winner prevailed. That was obviously disappointing but not surprising.

It would have been great to see Red Peak be the contender, but I’m still proud that we managed to get a real choice in the first vote. It would have been easy to just make a throw away snarky comment and forget about it. But, it was so much more inspiring to see a national conversation about identity and how we represent ourselves to each other and on the world stage. I’m not sure that would have happened otherwise. I’ve been amazed to see the creativity displayed by people who found something in the Red Peak design that made it their own. It was genuinely remarkable. I hope that conversation continues.


But, sadly, it doesn’t seem likely. Those who short-listed the options were determined to pick a design that was unmistakably from New Zealand. A bit of the silver fern combined with the current flag is hard to compete with, given that criterion. And so were left with the Hakarena flag, which to me screams 1994 Cricket World Cup. But, she’ll be right, I suppose. Luckily I will be some distance away, physically and mentally, by the time the second vote rolls around next year.


Following a wonderful disconnected month or so at the start of the year, I spent a some time thinking slightly longer ahead than I normally do. While I was doing that I read an article written by Ben Casnocha which has ended up having a significant impact.

It started a domino fall which eventually forced me to move beyond brute force and negligence. We’ve already made a significant dent in this, even in the first few months of working with Sacha. We’ve set up a whole new suite of tools to help us work together. Amazingly email is no longer a source of anxiety for me. My dream of implementing surge pricing on my inbox is a step closer. I’m genuinely invigorated and excited to think about what will be possible once we really hit our straps.

A part of the urgency to make this change was driven by our plans to shake things up in 2016, in a way that just wouldn’t have been possible previously. We are taking our kids out of school for the year and in a couple of weeks we hit the road, with plans to visit all seven continents. I have no desire to broadcast or live stream it, but if you’d like to follow along we’ll post occasional updates here. It promises to be an amazing adventure. I can’t wait.

Auf Wiedersehen

This is the final annual report, and likely the final post full stop on this site, at least in the current format.

I started writing these annual summaries in 2008, when I was in a very different place. Reading back over the full set it’s interesting to spot the things which are constant and the things which are nearly unrecognisable with the benefit of time and distance.

Once upon a time this blog was a place where I would post most days. That activity, including all of the conversation which used to happen in the comments has in recent years switched almost entirely to Twitter, for better or worse. What’s left is a smaller and smaller volume of posts of which I am more and more proud.

It’s become a bit of a joke amongst friends how often I reference back to old posts. It’s odd that a particular thought or idea should have a timestamp – both because to the extent that they are still valid and correct they shouldn’t seem dated, and to the extent that they are not they should be able to evolve (or be quietly deleted) rather than be frozen in perpetuity. So, it’s a relief to ditch the blog format and at some point I look forward to repurposing most of the recent content into something that will be more useful, more easily shared and hopefully more widely read.

Onwards and upwards.

Thank you. Take care. Talk soon.

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It’s funny how some distance makes everything seem small

Continuing my New Years Eve tradition, here are some favourite tweets from the year just been. Enjoy!

And some memorable retweets:

But, still nothing beats this one, from November 2014:


Previous Years:


Red Peak: Distinctly From New Zealand

What story will you tell?

We are the No. 8 wire nation. We believe we can do anything. This has some big upsides. It means we have more than our fair share of inventors and innovators. But, sadly, it also means we are sometimes far too slow to engage specialists who can help us take our good ideas and make them genuinely world class. In fact, we’re often suspicious of experts.

The whole process to select a new flag is yet another example of this. It’s crazy that the final four designs were selected by a panel that included a former All Black and a reality television producer but no designers. The result was actually predictable. They ignored expert advice and leaned heavily on popular opinion to make their selections. And with the final four choices they offered the country, they ended up offering little choice at all.

Design is a strange thing. We all have an opinion. But, for most of us it is difficult to explain why we like one design but not another. This is what makes experts, experts. They can explain!

For example, they can explain the difference between an emblem and a flag:


We have a world class emblem; earned and worn by our greatest. I’m extremely proud of it. Whatever happens in these referenda it will continue to be the symbol that we choose to represent ourselves. Like many people, I initially thought it would be an obvious inclusion on our new flag.

But, like most emblems, it’s a detailed shape, and therefore visually challenging to include on a flag. Even more so since it cannot use a simple fern without being too similar to trademarks such as the All Blacks logo. So any silver fern flag inevitably becomes compromised and complicated with multiple colours and a mixture of symbols.


A common criticism of Red Peak is that it is just a bunch of triangles and doesn’t scream “New Zealand”. This is true of the South African flag too. It’s also a simple geometric design, but one which we now instantly recognise as representing South Africa. Why is that? Of course there is a story, and all of the colours and shapes have meaning, but those details are really only important to South Africans. We don’t need to know the story to know this is their flag.

Red Peak has a wonderful story, referencing the mountains that literally define our country, and the Māori creation myth of Ranginui and Papatūānuku. It is a flag of two halves: one referencing the colours and designs of traditional tāniko and tukutuku panels, the other referencing the colour and shapes of the current flag. It’s strong, but it doesn’t shout. It’s humble but aspirational. It has the same qualities that define us as New Zealanders.

Red Peak

These stories have meaning and can be something we share with the world. But they are mostly for us. Others will come to know this design over time; as a result of the way we proudly fly the flag, wear it on our backpacks and paint it on our faces. Whether large (on the giant flag pole greeting tourists at Auckland airport) or tiny (next to an athlete’s name at the Olympics) Red Peak is a elegant and distinctive design that works.

When you come to rank the options in the upcoming referendum consider the overwhelming support the Red Peak design has among the experts. I don’t claim to be one of them, but having listened to their advice, I was convinced. We’re lucky that Red Peak was included as a fifth option. But, it’s still the underdog. It needs your support. Please vote, and rank Red Peak #1.

When people from around the world ask about our flag it would be great to have an amazing story to tell them. What story will you tell?

Level Up

“I wake up in the morning unsure of whether I want to savour the world or save the world. This makes it hard to plan the day.” — E.B. White

I was recently invited to travel to Israel as part of a delegation organised by Square Peg Capital and the Australian Israel Chamber of Commerce.

One of the people I met was Eitan Wertheimer, who sold his family business to Berkshire Hathaway in 2013 for $6.05 billion (that .05 is $50 million – when talking in billions even the second decimal point is material!) He spoke about the challenges of growing and selling the business. But, interestingly, he also talked frankly about how he struggled with what came next.

While our windfall from the Trade Me sale to Fairfax in 2006 was several orders of magnitude smaller, that resonated with me, as it similarly forced me to develop a whole new range of skills in short order: managing money, investments and philanthropy.

To date we’ve managed by a combination of brute force and negligence.

Ben Casnocha recently wrote about his experience working as Chief of Staff for Reid Hoffman. He talks about “The 40% Question” – i.e. if you think you’re working at 60% efficiency then what would it take to bridge the gap, and how would life be different if you did? That question is full of intrigue for me! And the rest of the article hinted at some of the answers.

Clearly the way we have been working doesn’t scale. It’s time to level up.

So, we’re delighted to announce that we have hired Sacha Judd as our new managing director, with effect from October this year, across our private investments, early-stage ventures and non-profit foundation.

Sacha has been a corporate and capital markets partner at Buddle Findlay for the past eight years, and has specialised in working with early-stage and high-growth technology companies. She is a significant contributor to the sector, through her work with events like Refactor, and her focus on educating and empowering founders.

We have worked together with Sacha on many of the ventures we have invested in, including Vend, Timely, Atomic and Revert, as well as co-hosting an annual Flounders’ Club retreat at our fabled Unicorn Farm, near Nelson.

I’m still in shock, frankly, that we were able to get somebody of her calibre to agree to do this job. I’m very excited about the possibilities that this creates for all of us.

You can now find us at hoku.nz. Stay tuned…!

Most People

This is based on a talk I gave at the end of last year to the prefects at my old school, Rongotai College. I really enjoyed meeting them and hearing a bit about how they think, and would be keen to do this again, if there is an opportunity. Let me know if you’d like me to give a similar talk to a group at your school.

The Definition of Success

Peter Thiel was one of the founders of PayPal and after that the original investor in Facebook, not to mention an investor in some local companies such as Xero and Vend. When he is interviewing people, for a job or potential investment, one of the questions he apparently asks them is1:

“What is something you believe that nearly no one else does?”

It’s a good question. Most people, I expect, can’t answer it.

I don’t want to give you the same old empty advice that I remember getting when I was sitting where you are, not that long ago2: work hard, do your best, follow your passion, yada, yada.

Instead, I thought it would be more interesting to talk a bit about some of the things I believe which most people don’t, and think about how you can use those things to help you be more successful in your lives.

This is an important thing to realise:

When you are at school, success is measured by how well do can do things that people have done before. That’s important. You’re building a foundation for yourself by understanding all of the things that others have discovered and learned.

But, once you leave school, it’s the exact opposite: success is measured by how well you can do things which nobody has done before and, what’s more, which most people don’t think you can do.

By definition, to be successful you just have to do those things which most people don’t. Think about that…!

Here are five specific things which I think most people don’t agree with, or perhaps just don’t think about long enough to realise.

1. Everything was made by somebody

Most people, especially as they get older, are not curious about how things are made and how things work.

Most people assume the world is just the way it is, and that their job is to live inside that world3.

However, actually, everything was made by somebody – the places where we live and work, buildings, shops and offices; the vehicles we get around in, cars and bikes and planes; our public spaces, streets, bridges, parks; the clothes and shoes we wear; the sports we play and even the teams we support; the devices that power our lives, computers, phones, software (not to mention the power stations and electricity network that make it all possible); all of the things which entertain us, television shows and movies, art, music, theatre; even the companies, organisations and institutions that make up our communities, with their rules and traditions and processes.

Don’t assume that the people who made any of these things are any different from you or that you couldn’t find some ways to make improvements if you’re so inclined.

When I was younger I used to enjoy taking things apart to see what was inside. One time I dismantled our VCR4. It’s easy to assume that the electrical things we use everyday, and increasingly depend upon, are a bit magical, you put a tape in and a movie plays on the television. But, once you take off the cover you realise that actually this is an object that has been designed by somebody and that a lot of thought has gone into it – for example I discovered that the head which reads the signal off the tape was oriented on a strange angle, so that the width of the tape could be keep smaller.

Likewise, when I get the chance to watch the All Blacks play live, I try and get to the ground early to watch the players go through their pre-match routines. I focus on one player at a time and see the various drills they complete. It’s easy to assume they are untouchable gladiators, but actually they are just skilful individuals5, preparing methodically, and together with their coaches they have thought about how they want to play as a team. They are following a well considered plan.

Once you understand this about the world, you realise something important: you can change it, influence it, improve it, and build your own things that others can use to make their own lives better.

So, be discontent. Look out especially for things that make you angry or frustrated. Don’t just accept things the way they are. Ask yourself, who made them? Why are they made that way? And, what could you do differently to make those things better?

2. Be prepared to be wrong

Most people don’t take risks, because they worry about what other people will think if they fail.

I’m not saying you should be happy to fail. I think a healthy fear of failure is a great motivator to do the hard work you’ll inevitably have to do if you aspire to do anything interesting. If you do fail, it will hurt, and so it should – go and feel terrible for a bit, then remind yourself that you’re not most people.

(Some people think that we should be more tolerant of failure in New Zealand. Sometimes you hear people suggesting that we should celebrate failure like they do in the US. Interestingly, not very many of the people who say that are as excited when I suggest that quid-pro-quo we should also celebrate success like they do in the US. Vive la inequality!)

I am saying you shouldn’t be scared to try.

Most people are generally optimistic, so their thinking tends to be mostly wishful thinking.

The important thing is not to be scared of taking risks, it is to better understand the risks you are taking. Try anything, provided you have a plan for getting back on your feet if/when you do fall on your face.

After I left school I went to university and worked hard and got a good degree. After I graduated I got a good job at a good company with good prospects for a good career. And then, after a few years of that, I quit to try my own venture. At the time, most of the people who knew me thought I was mad, and that I was throwing my career away6. They were probably right to think that – there was a very slim chance that what I was doing would be successful and a much greater chance that it would be a complete flop.

As it was, I wasn’t actually really risking much, other than my pride. If it didn’t work, I could have always gone back to a suit-and-tie job working for somebody else7. But, given what happened, it would have been a much greater failure not to have tried just in order to not seem a bit crazy to people who didn’t understand that.

So, don’t spend too much time agonising about what other people think. Especially those who are lot older than you, like me! With age comes experience, and with experience comes an understanding of all of the reasons why something is impossible, as well as a much greater fear of falling.

(And for good reason: when you are a kid you fall on your face multiple times a day and it doesn’t make much difference, but by the time you are an old person a fall can literally be life threatening, so it’s worth constantly assessing where you are on that spectrum!)

There is a caveat to this, which is that most people who make things are terrified of criticism, so they generally prefer to keep the new things they are working on secret until some mythical point in the future where the thing is finished and perfect. This is nearly always a mistake. As Elon Musk says, better to take the view that you are wrong and that your job is to be less wrong and the best way to do that is by asking for considered feedback from anybody who will give it to you, but especially from your friends who know you well, and will give you an honest opinion.

By the same measure, don’t spend too much time judging other people for the risks they take. It’s a foolish thing to predict somebody else will fail anyway, as if you’re right then you look mean and if you’re wrong you look silly, so you lose no matter what happens.

3. Ask for forgiveness not permission

Most people think they need to qualify, in some way, before doing the things they’re interested in and passionate about.

As you decide what to study at university you’ll learn about pre-requisites. That is, somebody else will decide what things you need to have done first in order to qualify for the things you want to do next.

This is how it works on reality television too. If you want to be a “pop idol” or “master chef” the way to do this is to wait for the auditions for the show to come to your town, then line up with all of the other hopefuls, compete in some contrived challenges and have your fate decided by some random celebrity who will give you the thumbs up or thumbs down, followed by either 15 minutes of fame or shame.

(Of course if you want to be a real pop idol or master chef, without the double quotes, then probably best to avoid the televised audition – do the hard yards in the relative anonymity of the shadows).

It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that the whole world is like this, and to continue with that mindset once you leave school. But, reality television isn’t real. If you want to do anything interesting you nearly always have to work it all out for yourself.

This is not to say you should ignore the experience of those who have gone before you. You should learn as much as you can about the things they did right, and wrong. Just don’t wait for them to open the door for you.

It’s worth constantly asking yourself: what or who are you waiting for?

If it’s not clear then often the best option is to just press on and do what seems like the logical next step to you, based on what you’ve learned so far. If you’re wrong then you may find yourself having to apologise to the owners of the toes you’ve stepped on, but that’s nearly always better than leaving yourself to wonder what could have been.

Most people think they need to work for somebody else.

Luckily, not everybody, or else there would be no jobs.

Of course, to start with you almost certainly will work for somebody else.

Try to treat them as a “we” rather than a “they”. Your boss was in your position once, probably not that long ago. Aim to become what they are, and get them to help you with that, rather than spending your life being suspicious and resentful.

On the other hand, don’t put them on a pedestal. They are likely unsure about a lot of things too, and will need your help. That’s why they’ve hired you, right?

When I work with early-stage companies, I always encourage the founders to hire people smarter than them who could, if things go well, eventually do their job. Because, when everybody hires their replacement that enables them to take on more responsibility at the next level up. That’s how you grow a great team. A’s hire A’s. But it’s a scary thought for most people. B’s hire C’s.

4. Who is telling the story?

Most people mindlessly believe what they see on television and read in the media.

Always ask yourself: who is telling the story, and why? It’s okay to be suspicious. Think about what that person or group is trying to sell you, or how they might benefit from having you believe one thing or another.

You should learn about the different types of bias that can confuse or distort how stories are presented.

For example, history is normally written by the winners. The reason I get to talk to you today is because the things I’ve worked on have mostly been successful. You don’t get to hear from the many others who tried similar things and didn’t have the same result, even though you would probably actually learn a lot more from them than you can from me.

You should seek out media coverage of a topic that you know well. You’ll most likely find that it’s confused and shallow, if not inaccurate and misleading. Then, extrapolate from that and consider what this means about all of the other areas where you are not knowledgable and therefore take what is reported at face value.

You should look for repeating patterns.

One of my guilty pleasures is seeing how the media cover large Lotto jackpots. It’s the same stories repeated every single time: the buzz of anticipation as the prize pool grows; the excitement of the “lucky” outlet that has beaten the odds and sold the winning ticket; and finally the winner, once identified, will inevitably tell journalists about all of the things they are going to spend their windfall on, while at the same time wanting to remain anonymous and/or continue with their existing life.

Interestingly, we never hear from the unlucky losers.

We soak in this sort of high-calorie/low-nutrition news constantly, and hopefully (from the perspective of the people selling us the stories) also notice the advertisements which are sold around them.

You should try to avoid confusing famous and successful. Those that make the most noise about their achievements aren’t always the only ones who are most deserving of your respect or attention. It’s good to have heros and role models to compare yourself to, but be careful who you choose. Try not to compare your inside with anybody else’s outside. Chances are you don’t have to dig too deep in order to find some major flaws or shades of grey.

And, don’t forget that everybody spins their story. I’m doing it right now! Few things are as simple, or obvious or absolute as they are often presented.

5. Choose your friends

Last but not least…

Most people don’t realise the influence that their friends and colleagues have on their life.

We all normalise our behaviour. We reasonably quickly become the average of the people we spent the most time with. If you hang around with people who behave a certain way, odds are that you will behave that way too, for better or for worse (unfortunately this seems to be true for negative behaviours just as much as for positive behaviours). So, it’s important that you choose those people carefully.

You can use this to help you change something about yourself that you want to change. If you want to be fit and healthy, choose friends who are fit and healthy. If you want to stop smoking, stop spending time with people who smoke. If you want a better balance between work time and family time, find people to work with who already organise themselves this way. Likewise, if you want to really push yourself in your career it will be much easier in a company where your colleagues are doing the same.

At the same time, work hard to keep in touch with the friends you’ve made here at school, because you’re probably not going to have the same opportunity again. It may seem to you now like that will be easy. At the moment you all have a lot in common. More than you realise. But, once you leave you’ll find your lives diverge quite quickly. Some of you will go to university, and study different things. Some of you will get jobs. You’ll find yourselves in different places around the country and around the world. Some of you will have a family. Some of you won’t. But, either way, all of you will get older, and when as you do it’s worth remembering those who knew you before you were any of those things. They are the ones who will keep you honest.


Think about the definition of success. You don’t have to be most people if you don’t want to be. You just have to ask yourself: what is it you believe that nobody else does?

Thanks for listening8, and good luck!


  1. Peter was asked this question himself in an AMA on Reddit and his answer was: “Most people believe that capitalism and competition are synonyms, and I think they are opposites”
  2. *cough* 20 years ago!
  3. This is not an original observation, and not even an original wording. I’m directly quoting Steve Jobs from this video:
  4. At this point in the talk I segue into a brief history lesson, to explain what a VCR is, but assuming the audience for this blog post is a bit older than at the school, I’ll skip that here and just provide a link to Wikipedia.
  5. As Brendon Radcliffe (founder of TheRugbySite.com) says, the All Blacks are executing the same skills as any other rugby player: tackling, passing, kicking, running. They just need to do it instinctively, under extreme pressure of time and space.
  6. Interestingly, there was only one person who was brave enough to say this to my face at the time – the managing partner at the company who had hired me, and he may have just been saying that in his own self-interest, hoping that I’d change my mind. It turns out that there is also some risk telling somebody that they are throwing their career away, as they may turn out to be making a fantastic decision which will make you look a bit silly down the track.
  7. Actually, that almost never happens, because in the course of trying something new you change, and so the thing you want to do next is something different, even if you fail.
  8. As Mary Schmich says in her famous fake valedictory speech: “Advice is a form of nostalgia. Dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it’s worth.”


I spent the last month more-or-less disconnected.

I’ve done this sort of thing before, but never for this long. It’s been a rare opportunity to take half a step back and think a bit about how I use technology, and consider some changes.

Disconnected in this context didn’t mean offline. I still had access to the internet. I still used the web to search, teach myself new things, book tickets and rent cars etc. I just made myself unavailable to inbound things that would take attention and went cold-turkey on some negative browsing habits.


It took me about a week to stop the tide on new messages, before I could put an out-of-office notification in place without interrupting anything mid-conversation. That, by itself, was pretty depressing. I went back into my inbox a couple of times during the month, to get in touch with people I was arranging to meet and also one time when delayed at an airport and the temptation to use the downtime productively was too great. But, otherwise, ignoring email was probably the easiest change to make.

I discovered that the badges that show a count of unread messages on the app icon and dock had at some time been re-enabled on both my laptop and my phone (presumably as part of operating system upgrades?) and that was triggering me to automatically check whenever I used my computer or phone for other reasons.

After a few days I didn’t give my inbox much more thought.

I did return to a large backlog, which will take a while to trawl through. It highlights how much noise I normally filter out using Triage (although it’s even easier to do it in one click). It’s slightly surprising how many of the threads are still relevant a few weeks later, although does show how little is as urgent as I otherwise treat it.

I realise it’s a privileged thing to be able to just say “nope, not looking” for as long as I did. Those I work with were very patient, which I appreciate. Towards the end I started getting a few txt messages from them suggesting I take a look at something urgent, but by then I wasn’t able to do much either way.

I really don’t enjoy the deteriorating relationship I have with my inbox. The anxiety it generates seems completely unnecessary. It got even worse in the second half of last year. After this clean break I’m keen to be much more strict about where and when I check for new messages and try and better batch my responses.


It’s a few years since we cancelled our newspaper subscriptions and stopped watching television news. Since then I’ve relied on online news sites. But, especially with Stuff and NZ Herald, I’m no longer convinced that I’m a customer of these services, rather than the product being sold by them to advertisers, and have found the signal-to-noise ratio to be getting lower and lower (with the exception of the celebrity gossip, of course). All it takes to lose confidence in the quality of what you’re reading is one story on a topic you know a lot about. You can extrapolate from there.

I need to be careful here since I’ve been warned by somebody whose opinion I respect (and normally follow) that the way I talk about this is boring. I’m not being superior. But, honestly, it was a relief to stop reading these sites, literally, first thing every morning. It’s hard to see myself re-establishing that habit.

I switched to using the Radio NZ Timeline to quickly scan the headlines, and went looking for more details on the rare occasion when that was warranted (e.g. following the Charlie Hebdo bombings) but otherwise don’t feel I missed anything.

No news is still good news.

Social Media

Lastly, I stopped using Twitter. This was hard. I knew I was a bit addicted, but didn’t realise quite how deep it ran. It didn’t help that I was doing cool things, and I constantly found myself wanting to broadcast the details.

I basically failed completely for the first week. I continued to reflexively check whenever using my phone or laptop, and, worse, when I was otherwise in the company of others. I aspire to be more Amish than that.

Even after I said goodbye and stopped tweeting I had classic withdrawal symptoms. I caught myself sending links to tweets I wanted to remember via email, rather than favouriting them, so that people wouldn’t be able to tell I was still secretly online.

I eventually got away, by deleting the account details from the apps, so I couldn’t easily check without having to login each time.

I discovered that there are basically three things I get from Twitter:

1. A place to brag.

It’s obviously important you know all about the great things that I’m doing and you are not (and vice versa), right? Otherwise how will we know who is winning?

Towards the end of the time away I dabbled with Facebook, as a substitute (the quantity of shameless bragging there is even greater than on Twitter, I found) but I just couldn’t get into it. It’s fun to share photos or videos and get comments or “likes” from people you haven’t seen in person for ages, but my problem is that the “friends” I have there are a slightly incomplete snapshot from about 2008, and I think I lack the enthusiasm at the moment to curate that list much better.

2. A place to talk shit.

It was a bit chilling to go back over a whole years worth of tweets and discover how many of them were just junk. Visiting the water cooler is fine, but somebody who spends all day there has no right to talk of being full.

I don’t think many of the just over 3000 people who follow me on Twitter will miss random tweeted song lyrics out of context, or silly arguments about incubators and accelerators, and I’ll find something much more useful and interesting to do with that time.

3. A source of interesting links.

I really missed this. As a result I started using Nuzzel, which aggregates links based on things tweeted by the people you follow, and found that in some ways even better than the real thing. I think this is going to fundamentally change the way I use “follows” on Twitter – in the past I’ve limited myself to 100 people, and generally had a bias for those I know in real life (i.e. Q: “would I stop on the street to talk to this person?”) but now I think I’m going to change that to preference those that share the most interesting things and people I aspire to maybe meet one day.


I have no idea how well these changes are going to stick.

As Andy Lark pointed out in his first post for the year:

“One of the downsides of working in tech isn’t just that you are surrounded by seriously distracted people, but you become one over time”

That’s dark. But accurate.

Maybe publishing about this reset makes me slightly less so?

Either way, if you can convince yourself to try it, I throughly recommend some disconnected time.